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Monthly Archives: November 2014

The colour of darkness.

Today I feel that all too familiar feeling trying to take hold of me. The darkness. What does the darkness feel like? It feels heavy and sad! It tries to wash over me and colour my thoughts and feelings until I am in a very small place. I know this feeling. When this feeling takes…

November 30, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, being alone, childhood abuse, healing, life stories, memoirs, non-fiction, personal narratives, telling dark secrets.

Phenomenal Women Survivors!

Maya Angelou was a phenomenal woman.  She was sexually abused at a very young age. She stopped speaking for five years after the abuse. When she reclaimed her voice, she went on to become a renowned poet, prolific writer, singer, dancer and inspiration to millions of women around the world. Listen to her poem below:…

November 24, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, authenticity, childhood abuse, healing, life stories, Maya Angelou, memoirs, non-fiction.

Anger is GOOD!

Growing up I was never allowed to express my anger. It was too’ un-lady like’ and just not appropriate! I swallowed the words I should have said, squeezing them tightly between my legs. Instead, I sometimes banged kitchen cupboards, pots and pans when I was asked to help out and the rest of the time…

November 20, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, anger, authenticity, childhood abuse.

Empathy is the antidote to shame

Today I just wanted to share this amazing Ted talk by Brene Brown and say thank you to all the women I have met through this blog. Women who inspire me greatly, and restore my faith in hope and love daily. It’s incredible that the women survivors who have lived through such darkness are able…

November 18, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, authenticity, healing, life stories, shame, the shame of childhood sexual abuse.

Wounded Attachment

One of the many deleterious effects of childhood sexual abuse is the kind of relationships that adult survivors establish. The term ‘wounded attachment’ is not new and has been used in different contexts. Wendy Brown uses it in her article on politics in 1993. Sexual abuse occurs within a relationship and there is no  surprise…

November 17, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, anxiety, being alone, childhood abuse, healing, life stories, memoirs, non-fiction.

Thicker Skin!

  I used to have a second skin of shame that walked with me wherever I went, making me feel bad and responsible for things I didn’t do. I was self-conscious and uncomfortable in my very skin! I am now confronting the past in all its messiness and pain. It is such hard hard work…

November 16, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, authenticity, childhood abuse, healing, life stories, memoirs, non-fiction, personal narratives.

My Bucket List

Things I want to do before I am forty! Travel to a foreign city alone Run the London Marathon Volunteer at a centre for women who are survivors of abuse and domestic violence Finish the novel I have started to write Get my driver’s licence Have a healthy romantic relationship free of abuse and codependency…

November 13, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, authenticity, being alone, healing, life stories, memoirs, non-fiction, personal narratives, women's social issues.

Emotional Upheaval

A roller coaster of emotions, I can’t keep up. Terror gives way to anxiety, changes to irritability, magnifies into anger, transforms into profound sadness. I cry and cry and cry an endless stream of tears. Looking around for something to hold to give me comfort Nothing When will I be ok? Is there a right…

November 12, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, anxiety, healing, life stories, memoirs, telling dark secrets.

The ripple effect of one decisive move!

One decision can change the lives of so many! I made the decision to leave my abusive husband about eight months ago. This decision to leave has given me the space to go for therapy. This therapy is giving me the non-judgmental and safe place to reflect on why I stayed so long in the…

November 11, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, authenticity, childhood abuse, divorce, domestic violence, healing, life stories, memoirs, non-fiction.

Let it go!

In this past week I have let go of  feelings that I have been carrying around for over thirty years. I have talked about difficult things that have been wrapped up in shame. Releasing the shame has unravelled the hurt and sadness attached to those places. I feel completely exhausted now, like I could lay…

November 10, 2014 in adult survivors of sexual abuse, anxiety, childhood abuse, healing, life stories, shame, telling dark secrets, the shame of childhood sexual abuse.

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