I used to have a second skin of shame that walked with me wherever I went, making me feel bad and responsible for things I didn’t do. I was self-conscious and uncomfortable in my very skin! I am now confronting the past in all its messiness and pain. It is such hard hard work that everyday challenges that used to trip me up, seem less imposing. Things like being rejected for a job or the idea of uncomfortable conversations would tear me apart before, and make me feel very small and disconnected. But I am toughening up and growing a thick outer shell that can withstand more than it ever could. I am still compassionate and sensitive to others feelings but I am tougher in the face of life’s constant trials and tribulations.