My lawyer contacted me last week to inform me that he would be sending the draft petition to my husband this week. I feel edgy and nervous. What’s going to happen next? How will he react? This will be the first official document that he receives informing him that I want a divorce.
I have tried to talk to him many times but he usually gets upset and says,
“Oh don’t bring that up again!”
“Just when things are going good you have to spoil them again!”
The divorce and the three instances of physical abuse have become taboo subjects. We are not allowed to mention them because they upset him so much. I almost feel bad every time I bring it up! He has succeeded again in silencing me by playing the victim of a cruel woman who wants a divorce. It’s always about him.
I am waiting to see how he will react! Will he ignore it or will he stop communicating with me and calling his son. Yes, will he punish his son out of hatred for me? So far in our long distance text messages he pretends that everything is fine. I oblige him with information about his son’s daily activities when needed but I have been aware that I need to distance myself more and more!
Should I warn him that he will be receiving it or just leave him to get it in the post this week???