Dealing with negativity
As a highly sensitive person, I absorb feelings easily and pay close attention to facial expressions, tone and words when I am interacting with others. Even more so when I am feeling less confident.
Although I have never been able to deflect the negativity of others very well, I am now consciously trying to make a change. As I continue counselling to discover all the different parts of myself i.e the wounded inner child, harsh inner critic etc, I am trying to understand how all the different pieces work together and find ways to create new ways of behaving.
In short I want to stop merely surviving and start thriving.
I have come a long way but one thing that needs addressing is my tendency to be so deeply affected by the bad moods and criticism of others. I don’t want to take those words so deeply inside allowing them to alter my mood and bring me down.
I am learning that it is a choice. I can choose how much power I give to the words of others. With continued self-care I can remind myself not to take everything so personally and realise that their negativity is a result of their own self-reflection and not an indication of how good or bad I am at any moment.
I can stop giving them the control over my emotions by choosing not to respond negatively. Instead I can step back and have some distance from their cruel stares and words. Their opinions are theirs and I have no control over them and I don’t want to continue allowing them to affect me so deeply and take on their negativity. It is very hard not to be affected in the very moment though!
How do you deal with this if you are a sensitive person?