Strong At The Broken Places

I am almost finished reading Linda Stanford’s “Strong At The Broken Places”, and it is both inspirational and hopeful in its tone and content. Stanford has a very intimate knowledge of survivors of childhood abuse, having dedicated forty years of her life as a social worker and psychotherapist to understanding how this kind of trauma…

The Body Never Forgets

My mind protects me by blocking out the painful memories, but my body remembers everything. I know that the abuse has affected the way I carry myself and my attitude towards my body. The abuse is stored in every cell. There is tightness and rigidity, there is a lack of spontaneity and even a sense…

The Battle to Love Myself

When I am alone, I am comfortable. I am happy in my skin. The feelings that come up are contained and processed and released. The problem arises when I interact with others. Then I start to feel inadequate. I feel that my words are not enough. I feel that I am not strong enough. I…

Control

I have learned so many things on this journey back to ME! I have learnt that I don’t give myself enough credit ever, that being unmothered as a child has affected me as profoundly as being sexually abused by my father, that I have brilliant resilience and courage and that people do value my words…

A snake bit me on my right hand!

Ever since I started counselling, I have had rather vivid dreams, and last night I had a particularly powerful dream that I can’t quite shake off. In ‘Warming the Stone Child’, Dr Clarissa Pinkola Estes talks about the need to pay close attention to your dreams as you walk the path of self-transformation and growth…