Following yesterday’s post Internet dating, there have been some interesting developments that I am sure you will be happy to hear about. Thank you to all the dear people who commented that I should keep safe and protect myself.
You were right. He is indeed a scumbag!!!! I discovered that last night. I am feeling hurt today, it has triggered that raw ache deep inside of me, but I am at work and doing my thing as I always do.
This is another growth opportunity for me. If you didn’t read my post yesterday I will fill you in briefly. Basically I met this guy on a dating website from a different country and we had been chatting for nearly a week when I started getting an uncomfortable feeling. I was very conflicted about it and wrote a post about it yesterday called Internet Dating. I was so unsure of myself, being pulled to him and at the same time, something else pulling me away. I couldn’t make sense of the uneasiness I felt.
Well he didn’t text all of yesterday and then last night sent a text saying that he had something for me. The previous night I had sent him a youtube video of a song I love. He claimed to be a singer and guitarist in his free time, so we did talk about music and he sent me some of his music clips. He told me that he would redo the song I sent him just because I liked it and he liked me so much (hahahaha!).
So last night he sent a music file to me (the song he had redone for me) and I was blown away because it sounded so great! I praised him effusively for his musical capability. Wow, what a man I had found. I had struck gold it seems! He lapped up the praise like a proud cat lapping up warm milk from a bowl and told me how the male voice and lead guitarist was him and the female voice was his cousin’s wife. I then forwarded the clip to my friend excitedly. She phoned me back later and the first thing she said,
“I am so sorry love but he is an idiot, you’ve got to stop all contact with this freak!”
Naturally I was shocked, what was she talking about?? he redid my favourite song for me. Was she just being jealous because no man would do that for her. Then she sent me the youtube clip that he had lifted from the internet and passed off as his own. He had taken somebody else’s cover version of the song and sent it to me! I sent it back to him and told him to
F**** O** and never contact me again. He started saying that he had sent me the wrong clip and then he started to try and dig himself out of the very deep hole he had dug for himself. I proceeded to delete all traces of him from my phone and block his number. He emailed me after this saying he had made a mistake and that I was being petty and judging him. And you already know what I did with that…….
Yes I ignored it.
I need to trust my powerful instincts. I hate that I am so vulnerable. It’s not a good feeling.