Adding a boundary and a second skin

There is a kind of tough resilience to me now. A feeling deep within that whatever happens, I will be ok. I’ve been to these places so many times before. What’s different now is that I am so much more better equipped. The last time I went through all this, I was isolated and alone…

Pausing….

…..and doing what’s best for me Lately I’ve found myself pausing when confronted with choices. Little and big choices. I pause and think about how to respond. I reflect on how convenient it really is for me. On how the decision will affect me. My aunt asked if she could come over next Friday. I…

Integrating the anger

I had another interesting session today. I went in feeling very angry today; lots of anger bubbling under the surface with no place to go. It’s been a busy week and frustrating one too! I am angry with my ex for his lack of support, I am angry with a man I fancied for telling…

The power of rage

In my counselling session today we addressed that very real unmet need within me to be taken care of. As with other survivors of abuse and neglect, I was never really taken care of properly. And this has left an ache and a hole, a desperation to get affection and ‘love’ in whatever shape or…

An Idiot’s Guide to the profound effects of Sexual Abuse

We have Idiot guides and manuals to almost everything nowadays; for example, An Idiot’s Guide to Plumbing, An Idiot’s Guide to Microsoft Office and an Idiot’s Guide to Parenting. I have been thinking that we should have an Idiot’s Guide to the Profound and Irreversible Effects of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Of course it’s not the…