Adding a boundary and a second skin

There is a kind of tough resilience to me now. A feeling deep within that whatever happens, I will be ok. I’ve been to these places so many times before. What’s different now is that I am so much more better equipped. The last time I went through all this, I was isolated and alone…

Pausing….

…..and doing what’s best for me Lately I’ve found myself pausing when confronted with choices. Little and big choices. I pause and think about how to respond. I reflect on how convenient it really is for me. On how the decision will affect me. My aunt asked if she could come over next Friday. I…

Allowing myself to make mistakes

A crucial part of self-love is allowing oneself to make mistakes. Of course words like fail and mistakes and wrong are always relative and subjective. But I am talking about giving yourself the freedom to make the wrong choices and trusting yourself enough to adjust and compensate and grow from the experience. As a survivor…

Boundaries, touching and what’s not okay!

I am discovering only now at 40, the very troubled relationship I have with boundaries, physical touch and being able to say NO! It is no surprise that all of this is difficult for me having been sexually abused by the man who was given the job of protecting and nurturing me. To compound the…