Just because..

Just because I’m smiling doesn’t mean I am not hurting inside Just because I’m quiet doesn’t mean I have nothing to say Just because I’m soft spoken doesn’t mean I can’t roar with the fierceness of lions Just because I’m coping doesn’t mean I don’t need help sometimes Just because I’ve done brave things doesn’t…

Adding a boundary and a second skin

There is a kind of tough resilience to me now. A feeling deep within that whatever happens, I will be ok. I’ve been to these places so many times before. What’s different now is that I am so much more better equipped. The last time I went through all this, I was isolated and alone…

Pausing….

…..and doing what’s best for me Lately I’ve found myself pausing when confronted with choices. Little and big choices. I pause and think about how to respond. I reflect on how convenient it really is for me. On how the decision will affect me. My aunt asked if she could come over next Friday. I…

Why being assertive is so hard for the sexually abused

It’s hard to say ‘No’, in fact I can say ‘No’ but only a weak ‘No’ with a smile and a noticeable smallness that colours the tone of my voice. In my session today, we talked about accessing that deep centre and using that power to say a meaningful ‘NO’. Such an important skill, to…

It’s ok to feel good

I used to feel that when good things happened to me, it was by some universal accident and that the happiness would be snatched away just as quickly. All because I didn’t deserve it and was somehow unworthy of it. It is only now that I am challenging this self-belief and many other inner harsh…