Invincible essence

Things aren’t the easiest at the moment, yet something deep within keeps me moving forward. Something I can’t see or hold; defying shape and form, but strong and invincible like a range of rocky mountains. Going to work everyday, teaching my classes, connecting with people. I keep going in spite of it all. That invincible…

It’s ok to feel good

I used to feel that when good things happened to me, it was by some universal accident and that the happiness would be snatched away just as quickly. All because I didn’t deserve it and was somehow unworthy of it. It is only now that I am challenging this self-belief and many other inner harsh…

The power of rage

In my counselling session today we addressed that very real unmet need within me to be taken care of. As with other survivors of abuse and neglect, I was never really taken care of properly. And this has left an ache and a hole, a desperation to get affection and ‘love’ in whatever shape or…

It’s ok to fall in the same places

It’s ok to stumble and fall in the same places. It’s ok to get lost. It’s ok to not want to feel alone and it’s ok to need to be loved and wanted. In short, it’s ok to be human. To cry one moment and laugh the next. To be overwhelmed and underwhelmed and to…

An Idiot’s Guide to the profound effects of Sexual Abuse

We have Idiot guides and manuals to almost everything nowadays; for example, An Idiot’s Guide to Plumbing, An Idiot’s Guide to Microsoft Office and an Idiot’s Guide to Parenting. I have been thinking that we should have an Idiot’s Guide to the Profound and Irreversible Effects of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Of course it’s not the…

Being a candle

 Those of you who know me and have visited my blog before, know that I love Rumi’s words and often quote from his poetry. I find the quote below so powerful and profound and wanted to share it with you today. It takes hard work, effort and struggle to be a candle. Candles give light,…