Bigger than the pain

I had a really good session yesterday with my counsellor. It was especially good I think because I’ve had a break while she was on holiday. My counsellor was deeply touched by the session too and had tears in her eyes. It was good to walk into that space and see myself again. Yesterday of…

Nothing’s changed and everything’s changed

I was more loved and mothered than I believed. I had a mother, but she was just not the woman who gave birth to me. In my counselling session yesterday, we talked a lot about my grandmother and how much she actually mothered me. How much she nurtured, protected and empowered me. She was more…

How being unmothered affects us

My counsellor and I have been talking a lot lately about the unmothered child and the resultant wound it creates in a child. What does it really mean to be unmothered? What does it feel like in those dark, hurt places that should have been filled with a mother’s unconditional love and care, acceptance and…