An Idiot’s Guide to the profound effects of Sexual Abuse

We have Idiot guides and manuals to almost everything nowadays; for example, An Idiot’s Guide to Plumbing, An Idiot’s Guide to Microsoft Office and an Idiot’s Guide to Parenting. I have been thinking that we should have an Idiot’s Guide to the Profound and Irreversible Effects of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Of course it’s not the…

Looking after my little girl

This morning I found myself waking up to a very scared little girl inside myself. I struggled to wake up; frozen with fear and worry. I reassured her that she was ok, she is safe and that I will take care of her. That I hear her and see her. That I know it’s been…

New Paths

It’s not easy to start a new life in a new place, make new friends, find a new job. So much ‘newness’ in such a short time. All the comfort and the familiarity of the old path has disappeared. It’s so easy to feel like you want to run back to the comfort of the…

I hate your guts but you will not steal my magic!

After posting yesterday about my ex-husband’s continued antics and tantrums, I received your messages of support and have been reminded of who I am. The woman who stood up to an abusive man and divorced him, the woman who confronted her abusive parents and cut them out of her life for their refusal to acknowledge…

Allowing myself to make mistakes

A crucial part of self-love is allowing oneself to make mistakes. Of course words like fail and mistakes and wrong are always relative and subjective. But I am talking about giving yourself the freedom to make the wrong choices and trusting yourself enough to adjust and compensate and grow from the experience. As a survivor…