A Song for you

I wanted to share this song with you. I watched a beautiful arthouse film called “My Life as a Courgette” It’s a touching French film about a young boy, nicknamed, “Courgette’ by his alcoholic and neglectful mother. He is placed in a children’s home surrounded by children who have suffered all kinds of trauma at…

Who are you talking to?

In my session today, my counsellor made me aware of situations where things on the outside could be going directly to the little girl within. Times when the words I hear could be felt from a place of lack and hunger for acceptance and love. The adult me knows rationally and cognitively how I think…

Self-punishment

I haven’t been on here a while and as happens with life, so much has transpired in the space that I have been away. Many times, I have thought of what I would write and post here for you to read, but instead I have immersed myself in the front seat and haven’t spent long…

Good Girl

In my last counselling session we talked about the good girl I carry around with me. The part of me that wants to be pleasing, affable and agreeable. The part of me that wants to be praised and fit and doesn’t want to stand out or attract too much attention to herself. The tidy girl…

Why being assertive is so hard for the sexually abused

It’s hard to say ‘No’, in fact I can say ‘No’ but only a weak ‘No’ with a smile and a noticeable smallness that colours the tone of my voice. In my session today, we talked about accessing that deep centre and using that power to say a meaningful ‘NO’. Such an important skill, to…