Just because

This morning after walking my son half-way to school I did some shopping and decided to treat myself. Just because. Just because I never give myself enough credit for the huge challenges I face. Just because it’s been a tough two weeks and it’s been a roller coaster of emotions. Just because I deserve to…

Pausing….

…..and doing what’s best for me Lately I’ve found myself pausing when confronted with choices. Little and big choices. I pause and think about how to respond. I reflect on how convenient it really is for me. On how the decision will affect me. My aunt asked if she could come over next Friday. I…

The power of rage

In my counselling session today we addressed that very real unmet need within me to be taken care of. As with other survivors of abuse and neglect, I was never really taken care of properly. And this has left an ache and a hole, a desperation to get affection and ‘love’ in whatever shape or…

Run Tellingheavysecrets Run!

I feel so invigorated and alive. Running does that for me. It’s really warm today and after dropping my son off at school I took a run in the local park. I had my earphones plugged into my ear and I did six laps. That doesn’t amount to more than about 3km as its a…

The challenges don’t stop

Indeed challenges never stop and it seems sometimes that every time you reach a place of comfort, the rug is violently tugged right from under your unsuspecting feet! But something from deep within has changed as I realise that this is what I do best; rise to challenges and these emergency situations are what I…

An Idiot’s Guide to the profound effects of Sexual Abuse

We have Idiot guides and manuals to almost everything nowadays; for example, An Idiot’s Guide to Plumbing, An Idiot’s Guide to Microsoft Office and an Idiot’s Guide to Parenting. I have been thinking that we should have an Idiot’s Guide to the Profound and Irreversible Effects of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Of course it’s not the…