I am feeling quite overwhelmed today with all that I have to do. Selling furniture, organising shipping, working out time frames for all the clearances that need to be done, still working full-time and looking after my son!
Wow it’s a lot to deal with and today the weight of it all has really hit me. I bought a pack of cigarettes and have been smoking two a day so far. I never smoke a lot and then I give it up again until the next time. It’s not good for my health of course but right now I am not judging myself and just trying to get this major feat done without collapsing!
Wow!
It’s going to be ok, I just feel like I need to look out for myself for a change. I am usually hyper-vigilant over my effect on others and I spend all my time worrying about how and when I may have hurt or offended others but really I need to focus on looking after myself. I am relocating after being abroad for so many years and I am doing it all alone. The people who matter will understand if I am preoccupied or self-absorbed.
I am hoping to leave in the next three weeks and then there will be a great deal of work on that side too, getting my son settled into his new school, finding a job etc etc. But it will all get done and I will get through it all. I have all the resources within, all the strength and insight and courage to do this. I believe in me.
tellingheavysecrets 
That’s a lot of stuff to deal with on your own. I applaud you. You will definitely cope as you’ve proved over each and every hurdle and struggle you step over. Good luck with it all. I’m glad you can be gentle on yourself. I believe in you too. ☺
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Thank you so much! It helps to know others believe in me too!
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It’s times like this too that the important people in your life will show their true colours. Do you have friends etc to reconnect with you, who know you once you move?
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That’s very true! I am here juggling a million things and my ex-husband moans about the tiniest thing he has to do. That’s him for you, could never rely on him to understand or support me. And I am noticing the friends too who are suddenly not here for me! Unfortunately I don’t have many friends, most I lost touch with, so am starting from scratch again and will hoping to make new friends; healthy ones!
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It will be ok a new start. I will email you if ok, if you want or need I might be more local to you than you are now. I’m not sure
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I believe in you too!
Of course you need to focus on you and all the things to be done. And sounds like you are checking them off and doing them one by one. It must feel so overwhelming! I don’t know how you are doing it all…but you are!
I am here for you all the way. If I could, I would help pack or clean or bring a casserole…or child care… I love that!
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Awww thank you so much, I could totally imagine you knocking on the door with a warm casserole dish in your hand and offering to look after my son. Big hug coming your way!
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Warm hugs across the net, thank you!
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Ugh, moving is a dreadful task, and it’s so much more work when it’s an overseas move! It’s utterly understandable that you feel pressured. I wish there were a way to muster all the support you have online to some real practical support through this challenging time. Give yourself a few short breaks to breathe and to remember the care and affection your WordPress friends are sending you.
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thank you so much! I do feel the support from you all! And I know I can post anytime and there will be an outpour of support for me. I really appreciate it!
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I was wondering this myself, real practical support.
Is there a friend or two who would pitch in if asked?
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Yes there are friends who have offered to help but you know I am so used to just doing things and getting on with whatever it is that I am not that comfortable asking for help. so yes it’s tough to ask even if its offered because there are parts of me that believe that maybe they don’t mean it and are just being polite etc.
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I so get that. And sometimes it is easier to just do it.
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Yes I feel the same 😉
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But thank you so much for thinking of ways to help me. I appreciate your kindness. I am just used to keeping people at a distance and dealing with the hard stuff myself.
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Me too. My first response that I deleted explained that very same tendency. I desperately wanted my friend to go with me once when I had to go to a specialist. She called to inquire about me and when I said I had the appointment the next day and she didn’t offer, I just couldn’t ask. I wish I had.
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We are so alike in that sense. I do the same with offers.
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I think another reason I don’t ask is the fear of rejection, of the other saying no. It is so hard putting myself out there that a ‘no’ or ‘I can’t’ stings sharply and add to the common theme of dejection.
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yes, it’s hard to take more rejection and hurt after all that came before. I almost expect it to be a no and so dont ask too!
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Well, we both learned early not to rely on anyone else, but to rely on our ourselves. There’s so much resilience there…
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Yes I think it’s that very same resilience that makes me courageous enough to jump out of planes and leave places to start afresh 😉
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Ahh, you make me smile, you firecracker! Yes!
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I like that! Firecracker!
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Yes, and sometimes a slow burn… others may not notice the smoldering, but there’s fire there all along… : )
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Thank you for the warmth of your comments 🙂 I am blessed to have you and we are even chatting in live time lol!
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I believe in you too! One breath at a time and kudos to you for being so compassionate with yourself!
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Thank you, I love that…”one breath at a time”
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Wow, this is real “wow”! I have moved continents several times before so I know the vastness of this move. You are doing it all alone! But don’t forget to reach out for help. You would need it. Above all, like you said, take care of yourself first! That’s your top priority. I know from past experience that when I sacrificed myself my health and emotional well-being always suffered as a consequence. You won’t be able to help your son or other if you don’t keep yourself intact, centered and happy, right? A big pat on the back for you and a big hug!!! Good luck in everything!
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thank you very much! The counselling that I will continue up until I leave helps and yes I am my top priority at the moment. I feel your warmth and appreciate it!
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Good for you!
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I’ve also moved abroad many times. The first time was just my cat and I, the last two times with a husband. You are incredibly resilient moving with your little one, whilst also working full time, whilst also dealing with a moaning ex! I also applaud you. One step at a time, one breath at a time definetely helps with keeping you going and easing the overwhelmed feeling. Big hug! You are doing great and best of luck! X
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Thank you! You are sooooo right. One breath at a time to keep from being overwhelmed. Thank you for the hug!
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