Good Girl

In my last counselling session we talked about the good girl I carry around with me. The part of me that wants to be pleasing, affable and agreeable. The part of me that wants to be praised and fit and doesn’t want to stand out or attract too much attention to herself. The tidy girl…

Why being assertive is so hard for the sexually abused

It’s hard to say ‘No’, in fact I can say ‘No’ but only a weak ‘No’ with a smile and a noticeable smallness that colours the tone of my voice. In my session today, we talked about accessing that deep centre and using that power to say a meaningful ‘NO’. Such an important skill, to…

The correlation between childhood sexual abuse and pelvic floor dysfunctions

I know it’s a mouthful of a title today but it’s something I am living. Medical examinations have always been a traumatic experience for me. I have a history of avoidance when it comes to addressing medical issues. A lifetime of hiding things and hiding from things makes that possible. My ex used to look…

Invincible essence

Things aren’t the easiest at the moment, yet something deep within keeps me moving forward. Something I can’t see or hold; defying shape and form, but strong and invincible like a range of rocky mountains. Going to work everyday, teaching my classes, connecting with people. I keep going in spite of it all. That invincible…