Adding a boundary and a second skin

There is a kind of tough resilience to me now. A feeling deep within that whatever happens, I will be ok. I’ve been to these places so many times before. What’s different now is that I am so much more better equipped. The last time I went through all this, I was isolated and alone…

Integrating the anger

I had another interesting session today. I went in feeling very angry today; lots of anger bubbling under the surface with no place to go. It’s been a busy week and frustrating one too! I am angry with my ex for his lack of support, I am angry with a man I fancied for telling…

It’s ok to fall in the same places

It’s ok to stumble and fall in the same places. It’s ok to get lost. It’s ok to not want to feel alone and it’s ok to need to be loved and wanted. In short, it’s ok to be human. To cry one moment and laugh the next. To be overwhelmed and underwhelmed and to…

New Paths

It’s not easy to start a new life in a new place, make new friends, find a new job. So much ‘newness’ in such a short time. All the comfort and the familiarity of the old path has disappeared. It’s so easy to feel like you want to run back to the comfort of the…

Wholeness through rawness (this is not a pretty post)

Woke up this morning with a very raw feeling in the centre of me. My counselling session churned up dirty, ugly, things from the past and I am sitting with all the hard stuff that has bubbled up. We talked about some painful realisations that I have made. Of how the body remembers all the…

A snake bit me on my right hand!

Ever since I started counselling, I have had rather vivid dreams, and last night I had a particularly powerful dream that I can’t quite shake off. In ‘Warming the Stone Child’, Dr Clarissa Pinkola Estes talks about the need to pay close attention to your dreams as you walk the path of self-transformation and growth…